Applying R.A.I.N: A Four Step Mindfulness Practice To Managing Intense Emotions

When we deal with intense emotions, sometimes it can take us a long time to become regulated again. This quick mindfulness practice might help you find your calm.

RAIN is an easy-to-remember tool for practicing mindfulness and compassion. Whether you’re using it to battle negative self-talk or anxious thoughts, most versions of RAIN are based on mindfulness, or taking the time to pause and pay attention to what you’re experiencing in the current moment.

R – Recognize

You want to recognize the thoughts and feelings as they’re happening. That could be anything from “I’m feeling attacked” to “I feel anxious that I might have said the wrong thing to my friend and offended them.”

A – Allow

Give yourself permission to experience the thought and emotion without immediately trying to push it away, change, or judge it. When you’re in the heat of the moment, this is the step we skip the most because not engaging with your inner monologue may seem like the right thing to do. But you end up shoving the feelings down deeper. It may feel uncomfortable in the moment, but allow the experience to be there just as it is.

I – Investigate

Now you can explore your feelings. This is totally different from being fueled by the desire for immediate solutions or blame. Examine the emotion you’re feeling instead of moving away from it. When we get closer to examine the emotion, it can become less cloudy or blurred. For example, the emotion of anger commonly includes moments of fear or disappointment. When we investigate our feelings, we focus less on the discomfort, and more on gaining insight about what we may be feeling fearful of or disappointed about in that moment.

N – Non-Identification

You are not your thoughts and feelings. In the “N” step of R.A.I.N., the sense of who you are is not defined by your emotions. Despite how intense and painful the emotional storm, you can always choose not to identify with that pain. Non-identification detangles our feelings and thoughts from a sense of self-worth and makes it easy to reach more compassionate conclusions about why you’re feeling the way you do.

You can use this R.A.I.N. technique anytime you are feeling overwhelmed or out of touch. It’s a powerful tool to ground yourself during a challenging time. If you’re having difficulty managing intense emotions and you’d like to learn how to better apply coping skills like R.A.I.N., working with a therapist can help you. If you or someone you know is interested in seeing a therapist give us a call at 562-566-4257 or visit our website at www.daybreakcounselingcenter.com for more information. At Daybreak Counseling Center we provide in-person psychotherapy, couples counseling, & mental health services in Long Beach, Cerritos and online virtual therapy throughout all of California. Our online therapy services are provided via video throughout and can easily be accessed in the comfort of your home in accordance with your schedule. We understand that taking that first step toward getting help or seeking personal growth can be the hardest part and we understand that. We focus on providing a safe environment in order to help you speak freely, share your story, ask difficult questions, and face challenging issues in a confidential exchange. We believe in the power of healing & growth that psychotherapy can provide & want all those that come through our doors to have amazing experience.

About the Author

Patrick Cleveland, L.M.F.T.

Patrick is the Founder and Executive Director of Daybreak Counseling Center with over 23 years of experience in the mental health field. He specializes in helping high-functioning adults, professionals, couples, and families navigate anxiety, depression, life transitions, relationship challenges, and personal development. Patrick uses an integrative, evidence-based approach that blends psychoanalytic therapy, Internal Family Systems, and modern therapeutic methods to support lasting emotional growth and healing.

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November 1, 2022

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